INFP Relationships | 16Personalities
This section INTJ-INFP relationship is about how these two personality types come together in a relationship. INFPs are dreamy idealists, and in the pursuit of the perfect relationship, this quality shows strongest. Never short on imagination, INFPs dream of the perfect. All relationships are rocky. But what might cause tension in this pairing? Let's look at some of the reasons why your INTJ INFP relationship might struggle.
They may, for instance, feel forced to perform unfulfilling work that fails to utilize their Ni-Te gifts.
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Or, they may struggle when the quality of a product or accuracy of information is compromised for the sake of marketability. INTJs also hate having to act before their intuition has prompted them to do so.
All of this can make the work life of INTJs rather miserable as they struggle to find a compromise between their Ni and Se concerns. Even the idea of compromise can be loathsome to INTJs, since their idealism and perfectionism are so pronounced. This perfectionism tends to be most acute when they attempt to directly control Se outcomes, such as when making art, performing, or obsessing over money or status. When functioning healthily in Ni, however, they rarely fall into the obsessive grip of perfectionism.
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With that said, pairing with an SFP rarely brings lasting satisfaction to INTJs, since, as introverts, their wholeness must come from the inside out, rather than vice-versa. INTJs may also happen upon other NJs in their work settings, especially in scientific, academic, or tech-related fields. Overall, ENTJs may be somewhat preferable, bringing a degree of typological variety to the relationship. They can simply be themselves and feel comfortable employing their normal modes of communication.
And when this is combined with the natural power struggles of J pairings, such relationships may fail to get out of the starting gates.
There are a few reasons for this.
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Such pairings have a good balance of differences and similarities and, again, are less likely to struggle with issues pertaining to hurt feelings or emotional sensitivities.
INTJs want a partner who can partake in lengthy and focused discussions. Concrete plans and commitments aren't his thing. I need concrete decisions and plans.
INTJs in a relationship with INFPs
I'd say we've been relationship-like since november but I've been patient and waiting, and he's coming around to a decision just recently. I know I'm important to him and I know he cares, he doesn't want to see someone else but for some reason he can't say "yes I am your boyfriend".
I don't understand it but we've been close for so long that I can wait a few months if that's what it takes. He's told me I help balance him out and calm him down. He has a hard time with depression and anxiety, so I try to help him stay focused and when he's down, tell him he matters to me and what things he does that I appreciate and like etc. Sometimes I feel like I'm harassing him but I remind him to take care of himself health wise and budget, make lists of what he needs to do so it isn't overwhelming, that kind of thing.
He loves trying new, weird things. The partner that has to be constantly responsible for the everyday maintenance may feel resentment or unfulfilled. A good balance can be achieved with proper delegation of duties or with the hiring of a domestic helper.
Thinking-Feeling Joys Thinker will be attracted to the Feeler's compassion and warmth toward Thinker and others, which Thinker may find lacking in self. Feeler is attracted to the objective, tough-minded Thinker who can take and give criticism without taking offense.
The Thinker-Feeler partnership will provide all rounded perspectives, considering people, values and logical consequences when making important decisions.
Struggles Thinkers may hurt Feelers with their straightforward and sometimes tactless words; Feelers tend to take words personally; so when the Thinker provides negative feedback, it always evokes a larger than expected reaction from the Feeler. Thinkers may not understand the Feeler's desire for harmony and hence avoidance of conflict. Thinkers often misinterpret Feeler's behavior and deem them complicated.
Feelers also tend to show affection much more naturally and sometimes they may feel their Thinking counterparts don't show enough of it; they may feel unfulfilled in the relationship.
Judging-Perceiving Joys Judgers enjoy making decisions for the relationship while Perceivers are happy just to let Judgers do so. Perceivers are happy to go with the flow according to the Judger's opinions, and they are generally okay with most casual decisions. Because of their organized and scheduled nature, Judgers bring a stability and order to the otherwise messy and spontaneous lives of Perceivers - something that the Perceivers greatly appreciate.