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Aug 6, I could not imagine staying in an unhealthy relationship just to avoid real or perceived loneliness or being single. I was lonely and sad in that. May 5, I'll be 36 years old in a few weeks and I've only been in one relationship, that made it 1 year in duration. That was at age It's been 12 years of singleness. Oct 27, When you are on your own, you accept being alone. and try to work through it and figure out whether this is just a hitch in the road or something . When the relationship is sick, you don't dissolve it, you nurture it and seek.
You want someone to think "Wow!
Being Single: How to Handle Loneliness
This person is dating ME?!?! Learn to love your own company. If you don't believe me, then you are wrong. Everyone is perfect in their own way. The problem is, many people -- especially single people -- don't believe it.
Feeling lonely in your relationship
It's okay to spend a Saturday night alone with yourself and a movie and a glass of wine. As you do, you should say to yourself what my mother always says, "I wonder what the peasants are doing? There are still good people out there. Again, don't buy into the myths that "all the good ones are taken. You're not taken, right?
Well, I rest my case! If you're single and available, then not all the good ones are taken. So you just need to get out of your own head and stop believing those lies that society tells you. There are plenty of good eligible singles out there for you to match up with. One of the things that singles don't like is that they can't predict the future. They think, Will I be alone forever? Will I be an old maid? Where should I go to meet people?
Lots of people don't like uncertainty and unanswered questions. But uncertainty brings a ton of opportunity. Your options are endless!! And that's a good thing! You just need to believe that it is, too. Focus on what you have, not what you don't. This is rule 1 of the Law of Attraction.
If you're not familiar with it, I suggest you read about it. When you focus on the negativity of being single, you are only putting negative vibrations out there to everyone.
They will pick up on it. Focus on your great job, wonderful friends, your health, your car, food on your table -- you name it. When you focus on the good things, your vibration will change to being positive. Plus, getting to sleep diagonally across the bed is pretty damn blissful.
Time spent in a bad relationship is time wasted finding the right one. Not sold on the whole "being on your own is actually awesome" argument? Think of it this way, then: Dating around can be fun if you give it a chance. Swiping right and actually making a real connection -- or finding Mr. Wrong and regaling your friends with details from your nightmare date -- can be fun, said divorce coach Kira Gould. Being single gives you the chance to figure out what you want -- and absolutely don't want -- in a relationship.
You probably don't want to date someone just like your ex -- so what do you want in your next partner?
Being Single: How to Handle Loneliness | HuffPost
At 30, and by nothing short of a miracle, I extracted myself from a relationship that I, by the grace of God and three good friendsidentified as going nowhere. One of the shocking responses I got from friends after that break-up was how "brave" I was for ending the relationship.
I could not imagine staying in an unhealthy relationship just to avoid real or perceived loneliness or being single. I was lonely and sad in that relationship and for me, the result of continuing that relationship would not have helped me to avoid loneliness -- I would have ended up lonely and married. I support relationships and want one, but only one that is good, healthy, and stable.
We not only stay in bad relationships to avoid loneliness, but we initiate relationships as a solution to our loneliness.
We get involved with people that we would never date but for the loneliness. I had a friend who once took up with a man who lived in a basement room with no windows, had once been a mortician and admitted to her almost immediately within 10 minutes when they met that he has shot someone.
This fella was so scary that I asked her to not let him know where I lived. I have also watched more than one person get married because they thought they were running out of time to have children or get married; they were scared of loneliness. We tolerate unacceptable behavior from friends, family and partners to abate loneliness. I made a deal with myself a long time ago that I must avoid selfish people, even if they were the only people I knew.
Like the friend who does all the talking and can't talk about anything but herself, a meal alone is so much better. I can't achieve long-term happiness by engaging in unhealthy and unhappy relationships of any kind. And there are countless other ways people respond to loneliness and the pressures to conform to what others expect.
These are just some of the things I have witnessed or done.
How do we avoid making bad decisions? In my experience, we have to slow down, recognize that our feelings are temporary, relentlessly pursue self-awareness know thyself first and get help when it's needed.