The Challenge of Long-Distance Relationships
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Wonderful you've been dating for five months in Biloxi gets sent to Chicago for a six-month assignment. Or, worse yet, his dream job moves there permanently and you don't want to choose between your own dream job still in Biloxi and your dreamy boyfriend.
The differences between the three are vast. You and Wedding Wonderboy are getting to know one another across the miles, while the relocations take away a known quantity. Building a new relationship is a whole lot harder than maintaining an existing one. The easiest one to weather is the temporary shift — if you're committed to the relationship, you just have to figure out a way to survive six difficult months.
But even that isn't easy. Define Your Terms You can ease a lot of long-term discomfort and confusion by defining your expectations in advance. For instance, unless you're looking for a casual, non-exclusive relationship, at some point, one of you is going to have to move. That can add a whole lot of stress to your already strained couplehood. So, from the beginning, set out a game plan. Are you evaluating whether one of you will move, and if so, does that mean marriage?
Or are you just trying to maintain the relationship as it stands now, perhaps in a different place? Recognize that you can't compare a long-distance relationship to one based on physical proximity. But you may be surprised how much a relationship can grow — if you work at it. Late-night talks and thoughtful letters can convey a lot of what is most important in the long-term: But simple companionship and connectedness is often the meat and bones of a relationship — and you still have to prepare yourself for the absence of his or her warmth, smile and all the wonders of non-verbal communication.
When a boyfriend and I were separated for three months, I drove him absolutely crazy because I needed — non-negotiably — to talk to him each day. We discovered this when somehow we skipped two planned phone calls and I completely freaked out.
I felt millions of miles away from him really, it was only 9,unloved, uncared for, forgotten Definitely one of my finer, rational moments. What had actually happened was that the nine-hour time difference got in the way. He was in Israel and I was in the States and he somehow thought that calling at 3 a. If a phone call gets missed or an e-mail doesn't arrive, do not assume that your darling has run off with the cleaning lady or been hijacked.
Discuss your communication needs and limits. It's likely that one partner will need more communication more than the other. Be prepared to be flexible. If you want more contact than your partner, try to be less demanding.
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If you need less, try to be a little more communicative than you might tend to be. Meet in the middle. It made me laugh of course and he went back with his trunk on.
We swam for a long period of time and came back in to have dinner. We ate and I swam again but I just floated around with noodles. He came back in and we swam another hour before the sunset.
I was talking to my friend about my previous crushes and told her that I liked a girl once. Cody came up to me and ask if I was gay. But it was the longest conversation that we ever had so I was happy that I was talking to him. That was when he finally told me that he always likes me from the beginning, but was shy to admit it.
I told him that I like him too, but I was afraid that he just saying that, because I told him that I like girls. It was when he first started to ask me to be his girlfriend and I said no at the time, but the next morning after he explain to me about what we did in the past. I finally made a choice to say yes and it was the happiness time I ever had. For that week, we were together like glue, but we managed to keep our relationship balance with our friends and keep our affection out of the public.
Everything was going perfect and I knew that something bad going to happens and I was getting ready with the pain that I would have to go through. My friend was trying to take Cody away from me, by letting her friend spread rumours that I was talking behind her back, because Cody picked me over her and I was handling it fine.
All I did was that I told Cody the truth and wait for his answer to choose again. For the next four days of feeling empty, I distracted myself and waited. I was happy again and I was fine with the outcome. The only problem was that it was the end of the summer and we needed to go back home.
After the third week I gave up on waiting and was trying to accept the fact that he will never contact me. I tried to convince myself that he lost the note somehow or anything, but deep down I miss him. Karna November 22, at 2: I am norwegian and I have been together with my boyfriend for 2 years. He is from16 and from Chile, although we met in South-Korea, where we both lived because of our family business. We met in January and dated ever since.
We have been in a LDR for 5 months now, however he broke up with me yesterday. I never smoke, drank or messed around with boys — until i met my boyfriend x-boyfriend. I lost my virginity to him when i was But we loved each other. My parents knew we were young but they loved my boyfriend, and his family loved me.
Our relationship was perfect until I moved away from Korea. I was spending the summer of in Norway with my friends and family before I moved to Spain for 1 year.
My boyfriends parents were so nice, letting him come to Norway for half the summer, which was the best time of my life. I fell in love with him even more, seeing him get along with my friends and family. To be honest, our LDR has been going great.
We skyped everyday and all day on Sundays despite the time difference, which was the major battle in our LDRand we communicated lots. But since he was drunk and only kissed her, i decided to give him a second chance.
Lately we have been arguing a lot about the future. When were we going to see each other again? What happens after we see each other? How long can we continue our LDR? Until the end of collage? The next time we might be able to see each other would be next summer. But, 1 year apart?
We love each other, but I cry myself to sleep almost every night and he suffers from great depression. Even though he is depressed and I am suffering from anxiety, everything goes away when we skype. For the last week, we have been debating whether or not we should simply just break up — and that maybe it was for the best.
This weekend 2 days agoI decided to forget about everything that was going on and go to my friends birthday party, at a pub. I got drunk for the very first time. When I woke up the next morning I was so nervous to tell my boyfriend. This is because I promised him that my first time getting drunk would be with him; i would be safe in his arms.
And then he hung up. My heart sank to the bottom of the ocean. I expected him to get mad but not this. I did not cheat on him, so I was in complete shock.
How could he react this way? He broke a promise, to stay faithful to me, but i still gave him a second chance. He sent me a text right after he hung up, telling me what a terrible person I was, complaining about how he thought I was different and independent, and loyal. This text made me even more confused.
I have not replied or called since. And I think he is expecting me to ask for forgiveness, and he would forgive. Normally this is what would happen in our relationship, since this has happened many times before.
But perhaps its best this way. He was my best friend, and I would still want to talk to him everyday. Maybe he would take me back and things would go back to normal, but than what will happen? Im only 15 and I know I have a whole life ahead of me, and sorry if this sounds totally insane, but I can only imagine my future with him! I am so comfused. I love him and I want to be with him but even IF he did take me back, what will the future hold?
I have read all the other stories, and it really helps to relate with other people. I am in so much pain. Gerald December 22, at However 32 months later, We finally proved them wrong. Me and my girl friend got back together with more love and passion. It will work if you work it. Madison March 6, at 3: Ive been down for Zach since we met and he said he feels the same. We tell each other we love each other atleast 20 times in a hour.
We plan on moving in together in the future. And we got together. I knew from the start I loved her, I was just always worried about my personal problems, which made me think will cause me to loose her. And I was trying to get more settled for us. I was a pretty bad fuck up in high school, so I was trying to get done with school, get a job, raise enough money and go see her.
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She even agreed to the idea and everything. But one problem was she always thought something was holding me back, but that was just school, money, and me. So finally i graduated high school, as a super senior, but early within the year than actually expected. And now i was trying to get a job, but was having trouble.
But we finally had a HUGE talk one night and she told me everything where I was wrong, and put me in my place to say, so then I decided we needed to compromise and so we gave each other many, many promises, and I finally stopped holding back and see each other and gave up my fears of it. So now it is March, and sadly we got into a little fight which turned into something else.
She ended telling me she wants to be with another guy, because he has his own place, job and started school again. Even before she planned on going to school here so we can live and be together but she decided to stay. And at first i was a bit sad she started school, because we planned on. ILoveAngel March 13, at 8: Jacob March 24, at 1: I am super happy to say me and my lovely GF are together now and about to move into an apartment together this summer and our relationship has never been better!
But there has been an overwhelming amount of forgiveness and realism. Despite all the bumps and extreme emotions that come with all of our mistakes, we kept a realistic out look on our relationship. She had to decide if she still loved me after I could make such an extremely dumb decision. And it look about 6 months for her to really start to trust me again.
Which is more than understandable if you ask me! I had to make a similar decision when we wanted to get back together after she left me for another guy. I would say communication is the most important thing in a relationship for many reasons. Every relationship is gonna take its own form of communication.
It takes a reprogramming of your brain almost. They never mention the times where it takes his dumb ass 4 years to commit to even see you.
Marriage may seem like this wonderful rainbow that a unicorn farts out for once you become a certain age, but let me tell you as someone fresh out of a LDR and about to be engaged. Its scary as SHIT! I also take payments in food.
Tell her you are willing to see her and really DO it. But if she really has moved on, I am so sorry, there is a girl out there close or far who is much worthy of your love and who will love you back as much you love her. I am in a LDR for 4 yrs now and communication, trust, honesty and constant reminding the other of our love what keeps us both solid and together. There should be reciprocity of love between the two of you or else one will be depleted, with all his or her love spent already.
You empty love and get filled with love by the other. Both should be willing to fight for the other. Go and visit her if you must and talk to her in person or prove to her you meant it…your love for her.
I hope this helps…Good luck. Halie April 15, at 5: My boyfriend 45 is from Florida. He is a truck driver. We talk quite more than before. He develop feelings for me. Been cheated and hurt in the past. I will see you soon. I called him asking what for.
He wanted to know what happen between us. He was talking to someone else at that point in October. He had feelings for someone else which that was me. It was his idea that I should fly out to Florida to see him to see where it was going to go. I booked my flight for Dec. I was excited and scared meeting him for the first time.
He was amazing everything what he said was true. I fell in love with him. We made it official that we were dating right on his 4th birthday. I was their to celebrate with him on his special day. Hardest part came on Jan 3, was the day I was leaving. We wrote each other a letter on how we felt towards eachother. As we got to the airline getting my bordering pass saying our goodbye and sweet kisses was the hardest thing.
I went my ways to get ready to go home. He called me after I got through security telling me he was trying to hold his tears back walking back to car.
That really made me sad. As I was on my way home… it felt different. With up and downs. We always talk,videochat,text just try to make the most of it. He got me a promise ring the symbol of his love to me that he wants to be with forever. I will be moving to Florida to be with him next yr in March to have our life and future together.
We will be getting married and I will grant him a daughter he always wanted so do i. Just to let everyone know who is in a LDR that it does work. My boyfriend and I dated all through high school and was even engaged the night of my Senior prom.
We had an amazing relationship, but I went off to college and he went into the Marines. Everyone was saying we were too young for it to work, there were people telling him I was cheating on him and vice versa.
None of that was true, but we ended up breaking up and moving on. We both married other people and had we each had three amazing children. After both our marriages failed we ended up finding each other by accident through facebook. It has been two years since we found each other and we are more in love than we ever have been.
The problem is…we live across the country from one another so we only get to see each other maybe once a month, if we are lucky. Our kids are all teenagers and theirs lives and other parents are where they are. We cant figure our how to get together. My divorce decree states that my kids are to stay in this school district and so does his. Our youngest children have five more years of school left. Any advice out there?
Eirini April 23, at 9: Well, here I am on my 4th year in college-need one more to graduate- having a LDR with a beautiful inside out French guy that originally started being both in the same place-that is Greece- for the first 2 months. I cannot say much, apart from the fact that I had plenty experiences and I always felt liberated from attachments.
Now in my 23 years and for the first time I truly feel in love and ready to be with that person for long time. And that is why…i feel that this is so unfair. One night I was just being cheerful and happy and another member of the group attacked me for it saying how I was a fake,considering he was the one asking me to join.
I was so upset I spend my night crying. But then suddenly I hear my phone,a text,it was A…. He texted to see if I was alright and that he could provide a shoulder for me to cry on. It never crossed my mind that I could fall for him.
I mean he lives a continent away,I was 17 he was We would stay up late talking about a future together,a beach house,him,me,our two daughters and a dog. He filled my days with happiness. Months went by we were more in love with each other. Then one night I felt he was pushing me out. By then I realized hey were dating. I tried my best to keep them together I wanted him happy even tho I was miserable.
Hershey May 9, at 8: I hope he do and I got that feeling yes he do love me: I hope we will be together for forever: I love you River May 13, at 4: We met through our parents and goes to different colleges. Anyways he started to like me right after and after he confessed we started our relationship long distance. I want to give him a hug after a long day at school and want to hold his hand during a chilly morning. Should I break up with him? JustAGirl May 17, at Oh and also, my boyfriend lives in the US and I live in Canada.
So it all started October when I wrote in a group chat on Facebook about how depressed I was. That guy was the only one that asked me why. So I sent him a private message and we chatted the rest of the evening.
Before that, I had seen him once during a skype group video and thought he was cute but I never dared to talk to him. So that evening, we talked and I even told him the first time I saw him i thought he was cute and everything.
Anyways, 2 months passed and feelings started growing and growing. One day, I got a letter from him. I also sent him a letter and that day we both got our letter so we decided to open them at the same time.
His was a poem he made. I cried and kept telling him how much I loved him. So that was the beginning. It was going well until I cheated on him with a guy in the same group chat as before.
I felt terrible and one day, when we were both telling the whole story of our life, I included the fact that I cheated on him… he was sad for some days and I was too. I feel so frustrated not to be able to do anything but hope and wait. Hiba May 18, at 8: I was in a Long distance relationship for 3 and a half years. I told him I give up on is too.
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So we broke up. He told me goodbye I said nothing. Even if he can make it now I will never think about it. He left when I needed him. While I was there for him. Our love was undoubtedly strong and very deep.
I still love him I can tell it. I will fall in love with someone new, I know.